Planning a wedding in 3 months
If this were the fairytale I have dreamed of my entire young life, I would have about a year and a half to plan a wedding after getting engaged. I would have a decent amount of savings to splurge on a wedding and I would be able to check all the boxes in a wedding checklist. However, this is nothing like I dreamed of or even imagined, instead God had something better than I ever dreamed or imagined.
I almost feel like this was God's way of telling me that I can't be in control of everything and that I can only do my best in every situation. I wish I could tell you that this whole wedding process is going slightly the traditional route, but I can't really find anything traditional about it and I've come to accept that it's okay.
In this day and age, having the biggest, most memorable wedding seems to be the norm. Guest lists need to be 5 pages at a minimum and according to theknot, the national average cost of a wedding in 2016 is almost $36,000. Holy cow. First, I don't have that kind of money and second, if I did, I would spend it on something else like a vacation or a new car.
I've known about my getting married timeline since the end of November, but I couldn't do much because I was about to take on finals, then had to make up hours for my internship, then the holidays, then a vacation to KS and the list goes on and on. I know that sounds like a lot of excuses, but let's face it - as a student, some of the busiest times is around finals. So, during this time, I really had to think hard (because I couldn't do much) and eventually accepted that ultimately, this is a season of celebration, love, faith (more than ever) and becoming.
So what timeline am I talking about, you may ask? George is a service member and he's received an assignment to PCS (permanent change of station) at the end of June 2018 and since then updated to end of May 2018 (so less time than we were initially given) and long story short, we want to be together. We always have and the only way I move with him is to put me on his orders which means... this is as good of a time as it gets to become his wife. George and I always knew we wanted to be husband and wife, but we didn't see the point of rushing it. Anyway, becoming his wife needed to happen ASAP which meant a shotgun wedding has to happen and we've decided to do a little ceremony and reception a couple of months later to celebrate our marriage with friends and family.
With only three months to plan a wedding with very little funds, we've gone the more practical route of planning. We invited 30-40 people who are most family and really close friends. A friend of mine offered her family's backyard (absolutely stunning) for our ceremony and reception free of charge. We are going through the route of rustic with a pop of blue (#Airforce) because we thought it was an easy color combo to work with and I've always loved simple, modern with a hint of rustic feel. I'm renting a dress because I don't believe I want to keep it after. I'm asking family and friends who are excellent photographers to candidly capture our day and I think that's about it. I know it's not much, but at the end of the day, the wedding is a celebration to share with our family and friends. The most important bit is the marriage. We want our marriage to work after the wedding day and the many years to come and we look forward to gaining experience and be able to mentor others when they are going through that season of their lives.
We would love your prayers, we are going through a lot of transition and I'll make sure to jot down any new lessons we learn along the way.